Category: Grief

(what i learned) belief in God is not meant to keep us comfortable
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(what i learned) belief in God is not meant to keep us comfortable

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As we embrace the warmth of these summer months, I decided to share with you what I learned this Spring. I adopted this idea to do some serious introspection and soul-inventory from my favorite author, Emily P. Freeman, and share my lessons in hopes you will join me too!
This one is an odd one as I’m getting extremely personal.
I’m not sharing a list of things I learned, rather a spiritual lesson I am currently processing.
Belief is fundamental to our Christian faith, but help me as I explore what it means to believe in the absence of evidence and spiritual comfort.
“Absence of Evidence IS NOT Evidence of Absence.”

why i don’t want you to feel sorry for me on mother’s day, my first without mom.
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why i don’t want you to feel sorry for me on mother’s day, my first without mom.

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I understand being sensitive towards someone you know might be going through it, but I implore you to stop falling into the cracks of political correctness. I’ve been skeptical about writing this post because the last thing I want is to bring someone down who is already grieving. But let me be clear, this post is mostly directed towards you who are not.

If you can take anything from reading this, I want you to go all out and celebrate with the loudest bells and whistles you could find! I know I would if mom was still here and my only hope this year is for you to have that moment with yours. We don’t know the day of our departure, so I implore you, celebrate like it’s the last Mother’s Day you’ll have with her.

This Easter 2017: When Death Defers Hope, Remember He is the Resurrection & the Life
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This Easter 2017: When Death Defers Hope, Remember He is the Resurrection & the Life

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Last year’s April 16th wasn’t Easter or any major holiday, it was just an ordinary Saturday. Before that day, there were plenty of other days, ordinary days, I chose not to think about death. Every time I did think about death, fear would invade every aspect of my life. Whenever I think about death, it becomes an obsession. The what, when, where, why, how questions would flood my brain to the point of keeping me idle and isolated as to avoid anything that could possibly kill me. So, I did my best and I deferred.

But April 16, 2016 was one of those days I didn’t think I’d remember, but one picture brings a plethora of memories and emotions.

Because for the first time in my mother’s diagnosis, I thought of death. Her death.

Dr. K’s Best Medicine: Take Your Own Advice & Make Lemonade
cancer · faith · family · fear · Forgiveness · God · Grief · humility · inspiration · legacy · Love · mom · Nostalgia · Ovarian Cancer · pride · redemption · Resilience · this is us · wisdom

Dr. K’s Best Medicine: Take Your Own Advice & Make Lemonade

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NBC’s This is Us has been renewed for two more seasons! (Yippee!). But there’s a reason why this show has captivated the hearts of many, including my own. Here’s my take on the latest episode “The Big Day,” although I really missed the grown up Big Three, this prequel to the pilot episode gave us a window to peek into the depth of Dr. K’s grief over the death of his beloved while further explaining to us his “when life gives you the sourest lemon” philosophy.
**Spoiler Alert** Don’t read if you haven’t watched the episode and don’t want to know what happens!**

How to Travel Light in a Heavy World: Wisdom is Free
cancer · Cruise · faith · family · food · Forgiveness · God · godliness · Grief · mom · Ovarian Cancer · Switchfoot · Travel · vacation · Where The Light Shines Through · wisdom

How to Travel Light in a Heavy World: Wisdom is Free

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As a self-proclaimed foodie, one of my preferred ways to travel is on a large and luxurious cruise ship because we consume all of this “free food.” I mean, who doesn’t love a free frozen treat after a long day spent exploring the hot and humid Caribbean islands? Then there’s the hard-working crew who are often the friendliest and sweetest people you will ever meet. They will make you feel like royalty for every dinner, particularly on those nights we get to wear our formal attire.

Ovarian Cancer Awareness Month: The Day(s) I Found God
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Ovarian Cancer Awareness Month: The Day(s) I Found God

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There are dates in our lifetime we will never be able to re-live or erase as much as we wish and as hard as we pray to God. Today is the second day of Ovarian Cancer Awareness Month, I now live knowing this horrendous disease takes wives from their husbands and mothers from their children with no sense of compassion.

When a loved one is battling cancer, she is not alone. We battle together.

Oh, Grief is Where The Light Shines Through
cancer · faith · family · genuine · God · Grief · Switchfoot · Where The Light Shines Through

Oh, Grief is Where The Light Shines Through

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Oh grief, do not consume me. I fear to stop grieving because I simply don’t want to forget her, but at the same time, I’m tired of answering everyone’s questions on how we are doing. You’ve become a slow, calculated, and nagging process; but then you wonder why most choose to skip you. Running away from you was enticing, but choosing you was the most reasonable option. You promise faster healing and relief, while running away from you would have led me bitterly back to you anyway.

Let It Burn
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Let It Burn

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If your house burns down today, what will be the one item (or person) you will grab on your way out to safety? Who or/and what fulfills us? Most importantly, are we willing to sacrifice ourselves to ensure someone else’s safety? All these questions have been invading my mind in the last few weeks because what I thought mattered most doesn’t anymore.